I was conversing with a friend online today and she told me about this guy she met. He's really nice and makes her laugh a lot and he really seems to like her. She really likes him too, but it just doesn't seem right to her to date him. And she's wondering why and whether she, like Anne Shirley in Anne of the Island (that's part of the Anne of Green Gables series, for all my male friends out there), has "tricked out something out of that imagination of [hers] that [she] thinks is love and then [she] is disappointed when the real thing is nothing like [she] thought." Not that she thinks she might love the guy, just that she thinks she might have unrealistic expectations about what love is. So I told her:
Don't settle. Love IS more than just a guy who's nice and can make you laugh. Of course, you shouldn't have the idea that love is some fairy tale fantasy or, to quote Guys and Dolls, "some fly-by-night broadway romance." But love is something more. I don't know what it is, exactly, because I have yet to experience it, but I know that it's an action, not a feeling. And I know that it is real, lasting and happens in the wee small moments of every day life, where most people don't seem to think to look for it.
Look at me. I'm starting to wax poetic. :) heheheh.
Anyway, not that I'm suggesting you shouldn't date a guy until you love him, but she sounded like she was. . . I guess, disappointed somehow, to borrow the word she borrowed from L.M. Montgomery. But, if I know anything about it at all, I know this: love is never disappointing.
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love is frequently disappointing
With the foreknowledge that I'm probably going to be disregarded as an romantic idealist or hopeless sentimentalist, I'm going to disagree. I think that a lot of people don't know what love is and often get it confused with other things, like infatuation or lust. Love can be painful, but it is never disappointing. People are disappointing, not love.
dude, you are so right. that's why i don't just settle for any guy anymore. i'm careful before i use the "l word". how are you hun?
(this is claire from loretto)
Love is more than frequently more than disappointing...
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